08
Mar
2010

Marriage & Pursuit
We Are Family
Written by Pastor Eddie   
One of the foundational truths of marriage is Pursuit, check out Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."


Notice “and hold fast to his wife”.  I said last week that when we “leave” we “azab”.  Here, we “hold fast” or other translations use, “cleave” meaning we “dabaq” which means, to pursue with energy; to cling zealously to something.  From the very beginning, God instructed us to leave and to hold fast… to work at marriage.  Sadly, many of the problems that we have in marriage today, are because we have rejected this foundational truth.

In the Marriage on the Rock series by Jimmy Evans, founder of Marriage Today, he points out that 4 of the reasons we fail at Pursuit are:  Fatigue, Laziness,  Negative Role Models and Misconceptions about Marriage.  I know that life is busy and many times in life we tend to focus on everything but our marriage.  Then when problems arise, we are often times to fatigued to put any energy in correcting the issue, yet by violating first the law of prioirty and then pursuit we are insuring continued strife in the marriage.

There are also marriage's where spouses simply become lazy and pursuing each other and are content with where they are at, regarldess of the strife.  Additionally, negative role models and misconceptions about marrige, lead us to believe that this is how marriage is supposed to, or it reveals the disallusionment of not having the "hollywood marriage".

The truth is that most couples struggling in marriage, specifically in the area of Pursuit can remedy the problem by getting back to the basics and that is doing what you did when you first began dating!  When you first fell in love it was a selfless love where you committed to pursue and sought our the other persons benefit, regardless of emotion or sacrifice that was required.  The word for this type of love is "Agape".

You fell in love because you worked at it and you can renew your love or fall back in love if you will work at it again.  Remember what you did in the beginning and repent to your spouse if you have been taking him/her for granted and/or you haven’t been working at the marriage.  Make a commit to a lifetime of Pursuit in your marriage.
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