25
Feb
2010

Marriage & Priority
We Are Family
Written by Pastor Eddie   
In my last blog I spoke about the disregard for God’s word, which begins the path of disobedience and leads to disagreement and disillusionment.  In this blog I am going to continue in that vien and show how God has given us foundational laws for marriage that, if we will abide by, will bring blessing.  However, when we break these laws, they will break us and our marriages.


The first thing you will have to settle, within yourself is that theses are laws, not suggestions. Meaning, they apply to everyone, no one is immune from them.  They are universal and eternal.  If you abide these laws, your foundation for marriage will be stable and permanent, without these laws in place you have instability.

Matthew 7:24-27  gives us the perfect description to what I am sharing today. When we build on the Rock (Jesus) our marriages can withstand any storm.  On the flip side, if its not on Jesus, its on sand and we are assured of destruction.  We have to understand that God has designed marriage to be the number one priority, after our personal relationship with Him, in our lives.  It will not function correctly in any other way.

We are created in the image and likeness of God.  In the divine order of eternity, God should always have preeminence in our lives.  He is first and He will not be second.  He is a jealous God and His name is Jealous (Ex. 34:14).  There is also a divine order in the covenant of marriage, where each person in the marriage prefers the other over themselves and anything that could potentially supplant the divine order.  When that order is disrupted, a legitimate jealousy comes in and seeks to protect against the violation in the divine order.  When priority is violated, jealousy shows up and if left unresolved, major problems will arise.

The solution in reestablishing the proper priority is, intimacy.  First, intimacy with the Father.  We have to prioritize God first and create intimacy with Him, it is then and only then that intimacy with your spouse will follow.  Here is what I mean by intimacy:  We have to share; partner and invest and trust in the our spouse.

We have to be willing to share and give of ourselves; be unselfish and communicate with our spouses in regular meaningful exchanges.  Men - that means more than one word is spoken, after a question is asked!  We have to have develop partnership; in other words, “I am committed” “I am going to build up, not tear down”.  Invest; “I am going to meet your needs and invest in us”.  “My heart is with you and that is where my treasure is going to be as well”!  Intimacy also speaks to trust, I am going to expose myself to you; my thoughts and feelings, and I am also going to give you a safe and protected place, outside of my intrusion and violation, where you can share your thoughts and feelings.

Once we have established what priority is, then must it proven, in real terms, not just words.  That requires daily discipline, goals, and practices.  Our true priorities are proven by our calendar, our checkbook and those that are around us.  Talk is cheap!  Our actions prove our real values and priorities. 

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