25
Feb
2010

We Are Family - Marriage
We Are Family
Written by Pastor Eddie   
The Garden of Eden.  You would think that in that setting, that Adam and Eve had the perfect marriage, the perfect set-up.  Think about it, He didn’t have to hear about all the men she could have married and she didn’t have to hear about the way his mother cooked his favorite dish.



God created man, male and female, in his own image, and declared them “very good”.  So what went wrong? How did “very good” go to awfully bad? God walked with His creation in the cool of the day letting them know, “We Are Family” yet they rebelled and choose to do it their own way, and that way lead to the deterioration of the family as we see all over the nation.

When you read Genesis 3:1-6 you see the first thing that begins the deterioration of the family is the disregard for God’s Word.   Within the marriage family, the moment we begin to disregard God’s Word for our own "word" is the moment we begin down the path of disobedience.  Failing and refusing to listen to and obey God’s word is really at the heart of all our marital problems, family problems, church problems, government problems, etc.  We may know what God’s Words says, yet there is a pretty wide gap knowing and doing the Word; they are two different things.

Within the marriage, when we disreagard God's Word it lead us to disagreement which produces pain within the relationship.  Genesis 3:7-13 Marriage is a union, it takes two to tango and many times that tango turns into a battle and a test of wills.

Along with pain comes disillusionment.  Genesis 3:14-20  Here the enemy comes against marriage saying things like, “If you had married the right person, it wouldn’t be hard”.  Then the second you act on that impulse he tells you, “Ya know that person you divorced or left, isn’t near as bad as the person you are with now”.

The truth is every marriage requires that we work at it.  In order for the marriage to be strong and stable it requires God’s Presence and Lordship, it requires obedience to what He has already spoken in His Word, mutual submission to one another, responsibility for each others actions and a revelation that each one needs to commit to work at the marriage.

The earthly relationship cannot succeed when the heavenly relationship is weak. The horizontal or human or social relationship flattens out when the vertical relationship with God bottoms out.  The greatest danger in the world is you and I giving into sin, and our worst enemy is often times ourselves.  Marriage can be hard, but not hopeless. God is skilled at repairing broken lives and marriages, provided the man and the woman are willing to acknowledge and follow Him as Lord and Savior.

Is God the rightful head of your house? Are you a proving for your family and protective of their interest? Is your family based on love, trust, understanding and respect?  When we say, “We Are Family” is it based on our ability to do, or on God’s ability to do through us?

Here is the hope, when we turn to the Word of God and do not disregard what it has to say our about our marriages and our families, His Word will not return void.  It will accomplish what God, sent it out to do.  He is watching over His Word to perform it.  If we will walk in His word in agreement, we will not feel the pain of disagreement and therefore not fall into the place of disillusionment.  We will have an understanding and revelation that marriage is work and it only works when two people truly become one and make a commitment that, “We Are Family”.
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